Elsie's story

Elsie using her tablet
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I’m eighty-two years. I have led an active life and I knew when I had the stroke that things would change dramatically.

Elsie’s strokes were four years ago: “It was a bit overwhelming. I lay in hospital, thinking what’s my life going to be like? What am I going to be able to do? But the staff helped me in doing a lot of things, they kept me active.”

“During the night was the worst time. But then morning came, and it wasn’t too bad, you know. I realised, there was a lot of good things going on, and I’ll be part of it if I can.”

“I think the important thing is to keep active, not to try and sit around, get up and go if you can. I ask myself everyday ‘what can I do to help myself?’ To me this has to do with self-respect.”

Elsie’s husband Billy is her full-time carer: “I try to help Elsie live life as fully as she possibly can, because I always take the view that quality of life is most important.”

Billy and Elsie try to go out most days, for coffee, shopping, to play Bridge or visit friends. Elsie uses an electric scooter outside, which makes it easier to get around. Elsie does crosswords and plays an online word game with her son, who lives abroad. Elsie and Billy had to give up golf, but they like to take a walk around the garden and look at the plants.

During summer, Billy helped Elsie plant bulbs:
“I planted bulbs, I had to take the zimmer to do it. That was an achievement. It’ll be lovely to see them in the spring. You’ve got to try and look forward.”

Patient Advice

Get over the fear of what other people might think

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Elsie’s advice: To me that idea of going back out to society was daunting. I thought I couldn’t do it. You’re thinking ‘what will people think of me’. It’s difficult, but I thought ‘this is me and okay, I’ve changed, but I’m still me’. The first time I went out was to play Bridge. I remember going up to a friend saying ‘Oh dear, I’ll have to get my coat off!’ It went fine. And I’ve got a cardholder to hold my cards. From then on, I began to do little things extra each time I went out.

My life with stroke in pictures

Elsie doing tapestry.
Elsie and her husband Billy.
Elsie in her garden.
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